Check Your Assumptions
As I was scrolling down my Facebook feed recently, a particular post caught my attention. It was a request for help posted to a group. And while I don't know the poster personally, I recognized the predicament they're in.
I feel like I hear the same exact story at least 3 times a week from different people.
Okay, sometimes it's ME telling the story.
Anyway, here's how it goes: "I'm stuck and I don't know what to do. I <insert complaint here -- I hate my job; I'm sick of being broke; wish I was in a relationship, etc.>... but I can't BECAUSE <insert obstacle here>."
And the obstacles are always seemingly insurmountable. Big, hairy, impossible, unavoidable obstacles that completely block the way, like...
...I can't quit my job because most jobs in my field are entry level, and I wouldn't make enough to cover my bills.
etc., etc., etc.
Every direction is blocked by an obstacle. You're trapped with no possible hope of escape.
But what if the obstacles only SEEM insurmountable because you *assume* that they are?
What if you started questioning these assumptions that look like obstacles?
An assumption is just an assumption; it's not necessarily true. But so long as you believe it, your assumptions might as well be true. And that's what's really keeping you stuck.
It's sort of like sitting in a prison cell and assuming that the door is locked.
Meanwhile, the key is in your pocket.
What if it's unchallenged assumptions that are keeping you stuck; and being stuck provides you with excuses and reasons NOT to do what you WOULD be doing if you weren't sitting there, stuck?
Check your assumptions.
Don't give up so quickly! Push the door to see if it doesn't just swing open on it's rusty hinges.
And feel free to borrow my new favorite acronym: FEAR = Finding Excuses And Reasons.
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